🌱 Balance – The Realization
When I see my daughter through my eyelids…
I don’t see a responsibility.
I see something to protect.
Her arrival alerted my natural instinct —
to apply pressure to the systems that once shaped me.
I know the feeling of being programmed.
Of having my judgment and ability to feel the natural order interrupted.
I can recall every decision I made that went against what’s real.
But it’s never too late to remove the chip…
To breathe again — like it’s actually free to do so.
❤️ Aid – Unlearning to Rebuild
This isn’t about money.
It’s about connection.
It’s about raising, not just sending off.
About lifting them up — not giving them up.
She’s only three.
And she’s already been schooled.
Already forming attachments with teachers I didn’t choose.
Her communication, her potty training, her sense of discernment —
all developing through systems that often don’t prioritize connection.
She’s pushed away when she asks for attention.
And that attention is the very thing her spirit needs to grow.
This isn’t a parenting issue.
It’s a programming issue.
And the hardest part of parenting?
Unlearning what was done to us —
while trying to raise someone we love with fresh eyes.
⚓️ Gratitude – What She Deserves
I’ve taken time to sort through my wounds.
I’m not perfect.
But I know this is a pivotal moment.
This isn’t about pushing her faster.
It’s about preparing her with love, with order, and with awareness.
She needs to know:
She’s not alone in wanting connection.
She’s not crazy for needing presence.
She doesn’t have to be rushed.
This is my seed.
She didn’t ask to be here.
And she’s not here to be trained to just perform.
She’s here to be raised.
To grow in her timing.
To trust her parents.
To trust her own light.
I want her to know she can do, be, and create whatever she wants —
as long as she’s in order.
Because order is what unlocks purpose.
Order is what protects peace.
And order is what helps us remember:
Slow comes before fast.
Stillness comes before growth.
Love comes before the lesson.
And when I close my eyes…
and see her through my eyelids —
that’s the truth I hold.
🧠❤️ How This Post Embodies Brains and Guts
| Brains (Wisdom & Awareness) | Guts (Courage & Action) |
| Recognizing how old systems shaped your decisions | Speaking truth about parenting without hiding behind ego |
| Reframing “discipline” as emotional presence | Letting go of wounds while building something better |
| Seeing your daughter as a spirit needing guidance, not control | Calling out societal programming publicly to inspire others |
| Understanding that order and love create true growth | Choosing connection over convenience, purpose over performance |
Coach BAG 
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